Leave the things that you can't forget

 Q. Dear Mary, when I was in junior high, I was bullied at school for small things, and I couldn't get along with anyone in my class for 2 years. I spent severe days in a state of like half-depression. For high school, I chose the one that was quite far from where I lived. No one knew about my past, everyone seemed nice,  I thought I could do my best. But sometimes I get scared to interact with people around me, and I can't make anyone I can call friend. I know I can't go on like this, so I finally threw away photos, notebooks, and things that remind me of those days. I also read many articles online related to self-development. I've been trying not to look back on the past in my own way. But I just can't erace the memory and can't move forward at all. Thinking about my future has nothing but despair.  (Dave, 17)

A. You’ve endured such hellish days since junior high alone. And you continue to go to high school without giving up. That’s already amazing. And now you’re trying to “sort out your feelings” to get rid of all the painful feelings that get messed up every time you remember them, and it’s not working. There are things in everyone’s heart that cannot be sorted out. There are things that continue to stay in deep of your heart. Even if you think you’ve thrown them away, they may come back again. So, what should we do? Just leave it alone. Because you can’t forget. However, don’t give up to “sort out your feelings” every time. Because if your heart sinks into a swamp, you won’t be able to breathe endlessly. If you can’t forget no matter what, don’t try to forget. But if you can find the time to distract yourself little by little, I can say you’ve already succeeded.